Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child
There is a wounded child in each of us. No matter our childhood circumstances, we have all experienced trauma and not getting what we needed that have closed us off and made us afraid to step into our light. As we grow up, we do our best to ‘forget’ these feelings from painful experiences, because we believe we can't bear to relive them. We learn to push our memories down with food, alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, shopping — the list is as endless as it is ineffective. We do whatever we can to avoid facing our darkness because we are terrified to feel it, afraid to admit our hurt little girl was left behind.
So, our little girl has no choice but to fearfully cry and rage. She seeks love, acceptance, and the protection of a mother. As adults, we may self-inflict the punishment we received as children by telling ourselves that we are unworthy, stupid, not enough… We punish the behaviour without looking at the underlying cause. We want to end our suffering by sending the child to a deep place inside, staying as far away as possible from her. But running away doesn’t end our suffering — it only prolongs it.
And then, as Thich Nhat Hanh says, "this pain and suffering become infused in our being." But he also says that "the seeds of awakened understanding and happiness are handed down to us from our ancestors" (through our soul family). We simply have to plant the seeds by lighting the lamp of mindfulness that's in each of us.
Being in touch with your Wild Child creates mindfulness.
Does the little girl inside of you cry and rage for attention, and then become the sweetest light when you give her what she needs? That was us as children my lovelies... So much pain and sadness, and misunderstanding that makes us feel so bad and unworthy of love and happiness as adults.
Seriously, it just breaks my heart to think that the beautiful angels inside of you and me are hurting so much. When I think of her this way, it has been so much easier to be tender to myself. We can be the mother to our little girl that we never had as children. We can help her to feel safe, protected, loved.
The Wild Child and the Wild Woman
Our inner child (our Wild Child) is part of the Wild Woman within each of us. We were born into our physical body as a perfect being that was completely and unadulteratedly herself. Pure. Free. Confident.
That beautiful little girl we are is still in there.
We cannot separate our Wild Child from our Wild Woman, but, we can integrate the Wild Child with the Wild Woman to more fully realize who we are — by loving, nurturing, protecting, and mothering our Wild Child, so she can help us be who we were meant to be.
I invite you to bring your Wild Child along on a healing journey
Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child: an experiment in co-creation
I'm not calling this a course, because I want YOU to co-create this course with me.
In the Experiment, we will devote all of our time nurturing that wounded Wild Child we each have within us. I want to make sure we also have lots of opportunity for healing and fun. We’ll do everything from journaling and sharing (as much as you are comfortable) to art journaling, and even an experiment in healing our family constellations. Plus there will be fun assignments like making sacred playdates for your Wild Child that could include anything from singing to the sea, to stomping in mud puddles!
I have lots of ideas and inspirations, and we can try them all. Some of my ideas and commitments for Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child include:
The Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child Experiment is a journey, like all my courses. I know where we will end up — feeling heard, worthy, stronger. And more at peace. But this time I have not created a step-by-step map. Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child is an experiment in co-creation because I want you to help me create this course by sharing your Little’s needs with so we can create the path together.
This Experiment is all about the journey
Think of the Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child Experiment as a series of playdates. Not every playdate has a specific activity. The best play comes when we bring our true selves and work together to build something. And yet, sometimes we want special activities, something to hold onto that will challenge us to open up and express ourselves.
That’s what makes this idea of Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child so exciting to me! We get to walk together, arm in arm, supporting and nurturing our own Littles, our parents’ Littles, and each other’s Littles, along the way.
When we share from our hearts, we not only feel relief and healing, but we help others to find relief and healing.
Anything is possible in this Experiment
As I see it, the experiment will be eight sessions, but it could carry on if we need and want it to. I don’t want to be limited if there is more to discover. I want it to be about discovery, about acknowledging and feel our hurt and tears, and allowing plenty of comforting and nurturing for our Wild Child.
I also want to allow our Wild Child to teach us about her playfulness and her sense of wonder that we as adults either forget about or downplay in our ‘adultness’ and in our NEED to ‘live in the real world’. The real world is really only limited by our vision of it — we can be so much more!
I personally want to see what my Little, Kacky, has to show me. It excites me to have you along with me, because Kacky loves to have friends to play with and she is so loving she has plenty to share.
So, if this idea for an experiment resonates with you, I invite you to confirm your commitment to your Little and join us.
What will happen as we nurture our wild selves
I have lots of ideas and inspirations for the Experiment — we can try them all — and more. Some of my ideas and commitments for Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child include:
- 8 sessions of live gatherings in my online room for conversation, laughter, tears and growth
- Exploring our childhood — our fathers, our mothers, our grandparents, and the families we’ve made as adults
- Journaling prompts to carry us through until we next meet
- Assignments for making sacred play time and having fun with our Wild Child
- An art journaling session
- A live family constellation session to help heal the generations of the past and into the future
- A secret facebook group so you can be sure that only those who enroll in this experiment can see your posts
- Replays of each live class, so you won't miss anything if you can't attend a session
- Each person who enrolls will also receive a copy of the book, Circle of Stones. I've had this book since 1994 and every time I read it, it touches the most tender part of me. We'll refer to it throughout the course and I'll have it shipped to you via Amazon.
- You’ll also get a bonus one-to-one session with me to work on whatever you like. At the very least we can have lovely, deep conversation and get to know each other face-to-face.
Beyond that, this experiment is up to the needs and the wants of the group and I'd like your input. It’s all about you and your Little!
Do you have a healing gift to share with the group that would fit with Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child? Let's talk. I truly want this to be an amazing journey!
The cost for this Experiment: $122 CAD
(Your Wild Child gets to participate free because this experiment is all about her!)
I really want you to be there with me and help me create a healing, nurturing and fun experience for your Wild Child to trust and rise up. I need a minimum of eight people to join in order to try this experiment with you. I recognize that not everyone will be able to attend every session, but group coaching doesn’t work well unless there are at least four of us together each time. There will also be video replays for you want to follow along and do the work, when you can't attend live.
We’ll sort out the dates and time as a group, once I have your commitment.
In past live group coaching, my course fee is $555 CAD for 8 group coaching sessions, course materials and replays. If you want to get in on a sweet deal, PLUS, have a chance at helping me to create a course that will not only help you to form a healing relationship with your Wild Child, but help change the lives of others that come after you — don't miss out on this one-time sweet deal!
I'm not asking for your money now — only your commitment
At this time, I'm only looking for your commitment to your Little, so if this calling makes her jump up and down with excitement in your belly, please express your commitment by filling out the form below (I repeat, there is no money required to sign-up, but I am looking for your firm commitment). When I have at least eight people willing to commit to the work and the healing in this experiment, I'll notify you.
If you have questions, or want to know if this is for you, I'd be happy to have a clarity call with you. You can sign up for a clarity call below.
I’d really love to begin this experiment in February 2018, to give you an idea of a timeline.
kathy mercure, storyhealer
I am a storyhealer, storylistener, and storyteller. My life’s work is to gently draw stories from my students to help them unlock their writing, find their voice, and heal their lives. My passion is to support women in realizing their true identity as Wild Women, claiming their passions, and speaking their truth as they become their most authentic selves.