I feel like I’ve dropped off the face of the earth.
I’ve just finished week two of training to be a Service Sales Agent and I have 10 more to go before I get to answer calls from the comfy of my home.
I won’t go into what I’ve discovered about going ‘back to school’ after 40 years ( I will say I certainly don’t remember school in the 70s ever being this intense), but it has made me lose track of EVERYTHING.
However, I will say, it has helped me to see what’s important, what I love, and what I need to carve out time for. I’ve talked about my heart-based business mastermind group several times before. I decided to take a hiatus from the group because I don’t have as much time to devote to it as I did before. What little free time I have, I want to devote directly to my business — and you.
Another year of stuck?
I’ve noticed in my mastermind that many people, as the year comes to a close, are feeling frozen — and it ain’t from the cold! They can’t see their way through the dense fog that has surrounded them. If it hadn’t been for starting this job at WestJet, I’d probably feel much the same.
Does this describe you?
As the hype of the December season of celebration comes to a close, you begin to feel regret. You see all kinds of posts on facebook and begin to make resolutions for changes in the new year. Within a few weeks or months, your commitments to change fall away and then, once again, by the end of the year, you are once again filled with regret and find yourself saying, “Well that was a crappy year, but 20__ is going to be amazing!”
And the cycle begins again
Again, I’m no different than anyone else, and if I hadn’t made this huge, life-changing commitment to going back to work after several years of barely scraping by in my business, I’d be there too. And let me tell you, a part of me still feels like I’m a failure in my business because I need to do this. But, if there’s one thing I learned this year, its this:
Our responsibility to ourselves is to ensure we are not running ourselves into the ground trying to force something to happen that isn’t ready to happen. And if that means finding another means of steady income to keep doing what we love — do it.
So, why are we stuck?
I’ve written a lot about being stuck in past blogs. Heck, I did a course on it. I call myself the Queen of Procrastination, for goodness sake!
We are stuck, because we aren’t listening. And if we are hearing, we aren’t acting. It’s as simple as that. Gah!
Ouch! The truth hurts sometimes, doesn't it?
We aren’t hearing our soul because our soul’s quiet whispers are being overwhelmed by the cacophony of the voices of our Fear, our Little, and our Inner Critic.
In my experience, even fog lights don’t offer much clarity. I think the fog that we feel when we can’t see our next right step is actually our soul trying to tell us to just stop, quiet our minds and listen.
I believe the best thing we can do for ourselves when we can’t see or hear… is to stop and become still.
Why? Well, when we stop the distractions and just BE, we hear those subtle whispers and tiny connections. And then, if we really do want to make changes in our lives, we act upon those subtle whispers and tiny connections that our soul is asking for and that the universe is making happen because, on some level, we’re asking for them.
Take a WINTERLUDE this December
The holiday season is beginning. I celebrate Christmas personally, but I’ve decided to call this whole month WINTERLUDE. It ties in so well with all that I’ve written above.
For me personally, Christmas has been getting quieter and quieter since we moved to New Brunswick 8 years ago. We've always spent it with my husband's family and in the past few years we even stopped making it about gifts and simply enjoyed our time together with good food and good company. That’s enough for me.
In two weeks I’ll be starting to answer phones as we take a break from training at WestJet. I'll likely be working on Christmas Day, so it will be a low key event (even lower key than it has been for the past several years). If I work in the morning we'll have a cheese fondue for supper and if I work the afternoon, maybe we'll have my decadent Christmas Breakfast Casserole (I’ll bring some to share with my cubicle buddies too)!
There might even be a gift under the tree this year when I get home.
For me, Winterlude is about good food and good company. I don't care if my house isn't decorated to the hilt, or even terribly clean to be honest. As long as I have my hubby and my Lulu to share it with and a belly full of good food, I’m a happy girl.
What about you? How do you feel about this time of year? Do you enjoy the hustle and bustle, or do you feel like you're trampled under all the expectations? Somewhere in between?
I feel the best holiday advice I could offer is to remember to hold yourself in the light of love and compassion. It's not on you to make the holiday season amazing. It’s already amazing on it's own. It's up to you to tend to your vibration and love yourself through whatever feelings are rising up.
When you bring it back to the basics, what brings you joy? What makes you feel like you? What can you do to bring yourself into the present moment? (Hint: Journaling will help keep you honest.)
Wild Woman Journaling Workshop for January!
Writing this post has made me decide that WINTER REFLECTION needs to be the theme for January’s Wild Woman Journaling workshop. We’ll take a look back on 2017, the good and the not so good, the lessons we learned and how we will carry ourselves in the light of love for 2018.
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If you’re already wondering why 2017 wasn’t your year for change…
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again (and again)... it’s really, really difficult to bring about lasting change (aka growth) without bringing your Little along with you. And I don’t mean bringing her along kicking and screaming, but voluntarily. Until she’s on board, feeling loved and protected and nurtured, I honestly don’t believe any change that isn’t forced upon you, will stick.
What the?! Right? I know… but it needs to be said. I see it in myself, I see it in others who say they want change in their lives and then don’t do anything to change it.
I am even going to be so bold as to say, we can’t really be full-fledged wild women if our wounded wild child isn’t ready.
How do we get our Littles ready?
For change, let's make 2018 the year of nurturing, comforting, loving, playing, and ultimately — healing your relationship with your wounded wild child!
As evolved women, we know that we’re stronger when we work together. It helps take the load off our shoulders when we distribute the weight of the world on our shoulders together.
I’m looking for a few courage wild women who are ready to make real change happen by joining me in the Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child Experiment.
The Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child Experiment is a journey, like all my courses. I know where we will end up — feeling heard, worthy, stronger. And more at peace. But this time I have not created a step-by-step map. Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child is an experiment in co-creation because I want you to help me create this course by sharing your Little’s needs with so we can create the path together.
This Experiment is all about the journey
Think of the Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child Experiment as a series of playdates. Not every playdate has a specific activity. The best play comes when we bring our true selves and work together to build something. And yet, sometimes we want special activities, something to hold onto that will challenge us to open up and express ourselves.
That’s what makes this idea of Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child so exciting to me! We get to walk together, arm in arm, supporting and nurturing our own Littles, our parents’ Littles, and each other’s Littles, along the way.
When we share from our hearts, we not only feel relief and healing, but we help others to find relief and healing.
Anything is possible in this Experiment
As I see it, the experiment will be eight sessions, but it could carry on if we need and want it to. I don’t want to be limited if there is more to discover. I want it to be about discovery, about acknowledging and feel our hurt and tears, and allowing plenty of comforting and nurturing for our Wild Child.
I also want to allow our Wild Child to teach us about her playfulness and her sense of wonder that we as adults either forget about or downplay in our ‘adultness’ and in our NEED to ‘live in the real world’. The real world is really only limited by our vision of it — we can be so much more!
I personally want to see what my Little, Kacky, has to show me. It excites me to have you along with me, because Kacky loves to have friends to play with and she is so loving she has plenty to share.
So, if this idea for an experiment resonates with you, I invite you to confirm your commitment to your Little and join us. Find out more:
If you have questions, or want to know if this is for you, I'd be happy to have a clarity call with you.
I’d really love to begin the Nurturing the Wounded Wild Child Experiment in February 2018, to give you an idea of a timeline.
kathy mercure is a storyhealer, storylistener, and storyteller. Her life’s work is to gently draw stories from her students to help them find their voice and nurture their Wounded Wild Child through journaling. Her passion is to support women in realizing their true identity as Wild Women, claiming their passions, and speaking their truths as they become their most authentic selves. (Photo by EagleSpirit Soul Shots)