You've tried journaling before and found yourself writing the same things over and over again, never actually moving forward, staying stuck in your fear box — and in your fear-filled life.
You may have enrolled in other self-help regimens, like gratitude practices, 100 days of Happy, or you have affirmations plastered all over your mirror, your fridge, and your computer.
Perhaps you have a shelf filled with books promising to make your life better if you only do this or that.
But you can never make yourself do this or that.
Despite all the self-help STUFF you've tried, you’re still stuck in fear — and in a life YOU DON'T EVEN RECOGNIZE.
That’s the thing about a healing journey — the healing only happens when you put effort, consistency, and determination into it.
Journal writing is the perfect companion when you're in turmoil
I gravitated to journaling on my healing path. It started with letter writing back in the day, and then email writing as times changed. Writing down my heart has always been my go-to for sorting out my thoughts and understanding what was going on for me (whether I sent the letters and emails or not).
I was relatively new to the city I’m living in now, and I didn’t have a sacred community of women to talk to about my despair. So, it was natural that I would turn to the journal when my life got right up in my face. I was miserable, and I couldn’t avoid how I was feeling anymore. I had to change. And journaling was right there with me every step of the way as I finally worked up the courage to deal with my life.
Very few of us are gifted with the sainted friends who are willing to listen to us go over and over our pain, examining it from all angles, until we figure out the lessons and find healing.
The real secret sauce to my courses?
As hard as it was for me to accept what my students and others have told me, I had to get over my fear to write those words, because it is my gift for compassion and empathy that makes my video courses and live workshops so inspiring and life changing.
I care so frickin' much about you! I never want anyone to hurt the way I did. I want you to feel better and find peace too.
Because I was you about six years ago.
I was a mess — a marshmallow wrapped in barbed wire
I lashed out if I felt the slightest criticism, and then felt like I was the most horrible person ever.
I tried desperately not to cry because I didn't want anyone to think I was a weak-ass crybaby who was a vulnerable target.
I felt like I was bad to the bone and undeserving, so I kept people at a distance in case they hurt me, or I hurt them.
I was directionless. Even though I was working as a freelance writer, doing what I thought I loved to do, I was wracked with fear every time a new contract came my way. I suffered from a massive case of Imposter Syndrome. I even cleaned toilets rather than starting on writing projects!
My evenings were spent watching hours and hours of television, stuffing myself with cookies, chips, chocolate — whatever I could find to numb the pain and not feel what so desperately needed to burst out of me. There was never enough to fill me up.
JOURNAL WRITING HELPED ME WORK THROUGH OCEANS OF PAIN.
I eventually came to a deeper understanding of myself as I worked with my mentors and tried living authentically for the first time in my life. I wasn't perfect at it and lots of times I slipped back into my old people-pleasing ways, but it felt scary good to be myself.
Journaling helped me so much; I knew I had to pass on what I had learned because if there is anything I have wanted to be, it is of service.
Journaling continues to help me in my life because there will always be another challenge, another level of healing.
How turning to the journal can heal your life
I’m the first to admit that journaling is not necessarily the first thing everyone turns to in times of need. However, let me be the first to tell you that the journal is the perfect companion when life is forcing change upon you, when you need someone to hear you, or when you’re so tired of being so unhappy or frozen that you’re finally willing to take action. The journal is always ready to hear you. You can empty your heart into it thousands of times, going over the same story time and time again, until you can see your story in a different way. That’s when healing happens.
You'll discover the positive impact of writing from your heart, pouring out all your grief and sorrow, your joys and thankfulness into a receptacle of non-judgement. The journal is always there, and you can always look back to see how far you’ve come.
I developed Writing From the Heart and now Bust Out of Your Fear Box! (launching January 2017) to help you find your way faster than I did. Use your journal to answer questions and write assignments that are designed to help you navigate your way to clarity and the answers you seek. It works.
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If you want to get a jumpstart on working through your 'stuff', try my FREE e-course, Jumpstart to Journaling. In 7 lessons you will experience 8+ journaling techniques that will help you quiet your chattering brain, hear your heart, and write what it wants you to hear. Whether you've never journaled before, been frustrated by writing the same old drivel each time, or you're a daily journaler who could do with a shake-up, you'll find the lessons valuable. Consider Jumpstart to Journaling the first tiny step on your path to healing.
kathy mercure is a storyhealer, storylistener, and storyteller. Her life’s work is to gently draw stories from her students and help them unblock their writing, find their voice, and heal their lives. Her passion is to support women and men in realizing their true identity as a valued human being, claiming their passions, and speaking their truth as they become their most authentic selves. (Photo by EagleSpirit Soul Shots)