This is one of the most common reasons I hear from people who have a fear of journaling — for not journaling.
THINK OF YOUR JOURNAL AS A VESSEL
You wouldn’t think that an innocent little book with blank, lined (or not) pages could cause so much discomfort. But it does. How can paper have such power?
We think of “spoiling” a journal by not writing something as equally beautiful as the journal itself.
Instead of something sacred, think of a journal as a vessel. It holds your words, your thoughts, your mental pictures, your joys, your sorrows — and cradles them like a mother tenderly holding her child. There is no judgment, only love. Your journal is a safe place to be who, and what you’ve always wanted to be so that you can transform yourself into whomever you most want to be.
If you’re like me and you didn’t have a mother you could run to for hugs and healing, your journal is there. Pour your heart into it, and she will listen.
IT'S EASIER WHEN YOU WRITE FROM THE HEART
My foundational journaling course, Writing From the Heart, is a method that helps you to calm your mind, listen to your heart and write what it has to say. It connects your HEART to your BRAIN to your PEN so that all you have to do is to be a receiver of messages and a recorder of what you hear. The key is to quiet the chattering bird in your brain.
I've made it easier with a Guided Meditation. I've put together a recording of calming music and words that guide you to relax and stop the chatter so that you can hear your heart's infinite wisdom. Simply follow the link below and you'll receive the meditation to download and use over and over again.
GETTING STUCK IS RESISTANCE
When we’re writing to heal and break free of our fears, there is a phenomena that happens without fail. GETTING STUCK.
It usually happens a few days or weeks after you learn how to write from your heart. And, not coincidentally, that’s also after you’ve gone through all the surface stuff you can easily dig up (which is why, when it happens, varies from person to person).
Writing From the Heart is like a spiral. You circle around and around what your heart wants you to hear, but because the spiral is actually a vertical funnel, you are also going deeper and deeper.
And then Fear steps in — aka RESISTANCE. It happens when you’re getting closer to the core of what you need to hear. The solution is not to give up, but to keep writing. Put your ear to your heart and listen. If your resistance is strong and you still can’t hear the voice of your heart, write “I don’t know what to say,” and keep going.
Even if it’s drivel that you’re writing and you’re getting frustrated this is good. Write down every damned word you hear.
Don't give up on writing, break through
Eventually you will break through your resistance. As you concentrate only on listening and writing what you hear, you will begin to sink into the alpha brainwave state of FLOW. Flow happens for most at about 20 minutes into a journal writing practice (but as you break through your resistance you can get there within 2, I swear!) where you are still conscious but you’ve tapped into an energy that slows down your brain, your heart rate goes down and you lose sense of time. It’s just you, your heart and the pen.
If you’re still stuck
I don’t want you to quit writing in your journal, so here is a cheat to help you If you're still stuck, use a writing prompt to inspire and challenge you. Use them as a whisper to get the pen moving again. Then, follow your heart wherever it leads you — because it will always take you to where you need to go.
If you want 365 days of writing prompts, you can sign up for my free Word-A-Day 2017 writing prompts. At the end of each month, you will receive a download of 1-word writing prompts for the next month.
Another way to get unstuck
Maybe you need to shake up your writing — especially if you’ve been writing for a while. Try my free e-course Jumpstart to Journaling. It gives you 8+ journal writing styles (several are my own creation) to help you keep the words flowing in unique ways. You’ll be inspired for sure!
YOUR SUCCESS EQUATION: ME + YOU + A LOT OF WRITING = CLARITY
I know journal writing heals, because I, and hundreds of my students, have made lasting changes, finding clarity and answers in our lives, with the help of journaling. Many students tell me that the gentle, loving way I deliver each lesson is so comforting, it gives them the courage to write. I want that for you too.
BUST OUT OF YOUR FEAR BOX! SMALL GROUP LIVE COURSE
For the first time ever, I’m offering a live interactive version of my new course called, Bust Out of Your Fear Box!
I’ll coach you and a small group of others, through this eight-week course in which you’ll look at your fears objectively, discover where they collide with your desires, move fear into the backseat, develop an action plan, and begin moving towards your desires.
I want to keep these numbers low so I can hold space for each of you and give you individual attention. A live course also allows me to customize the content to the needs of each group. And of course, if you can’t make one of the classes, you can always pick it up in the video replay that will be yours to keep.
There is much to be said for the accountability of working with a small group — a group of people you will soon form deep connections with. If you need a gentle nudge and a bit of peer pressure to keep up the momentum of working through your fears, desires, and action, this is the way to go.
I’ll be with you all the way.
kathy mercure is a storyhealer, storylistener, and storyteller. Her life’s work is to gently draw stories from her students and help them unblock their writing, find their voice, and heal their lives. Her passion is to support women and men in realizing their true identity as a valued human being, claiming their passions, and speaking their truth as they become their most authentic selves. (Photo by EagleSpirit Soul Shots)